Understanding Attachment Styles

Subconsciously, humans are all programmed in their own respected ways. The way that you act in situations that are stressful or new can reveal who you are at the deepest vacate of your being. These things are carefully welded into you; they're derived from your environment and genetics. There are four types of attachment styles which can dictate how you respond and interact with other people--your role in your relationships with others. They include: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. 

Secure Attachment 

Those with a secure attachment style tend to be confident and sure of their place in their relationships with others. They lean towards relationships where they give as much as they receive, and are comfortable with doing so. they tend to have a heightened sense of self-esteem and an ability to express their feelings to other people. In romantic relationships, they are comfortable with having independence from their partner 

Anxious Attachment 

Unlike people with a secure attachment style, people with anxious attachment style constantly need approval, attention, and support. Strong fear of abandonment can be developed from early childhood. It is often due to inconsistent parenting. to recognize this attachment style in yourself you can ask yourself these questions:  Do you think highly of others but suffer from low self-esteem? Are you often attuned to your partner's needs while disregarding your own? If you answered yes to these questions, you may have this attachment style. 

Dismissive Avoidant 

Some may say that anxious attachment and dismissive avoidant attachment are the opposite of each other. Dismissive avoidants tend to suppress and hide their feelings out of being afraid that they are too much for their friends or partners. This can stem from a subconscious fear of intimacy that is projected onto their daily lives and relationships. 

Fearful Avoidant

A fearful avoidant attachment style is a combination of avoidant and anxious attachment. These people tend to have difficulties regulating their emotions when in relationships and have less satisfaction in romantic relationships. They crave independence more than intimacy and have trouble taking their partners seriously. This can stem from avoiding a deep relationship with their parents growing up, and it is linked to borderline personality disorder and dissociative personality disorder.